Reflection on conflict transformation based on the little book of Conflict Transformation of Dr John Paul LEDERACH

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It is obvious that in our current world, we cannot live without having heard from a distance the word “conflict”; not to mention that most people no longer know how to do it, especially since it is an event or a problem that takes place in society. Before I read Dr Jean Paul LEDERACH's book, entitled "The Little Conflict Transformation Book", I thought that to end a conflict, you just have to resolve it and everything will come back to order while forgetting that this same conflict may return in another form which may cause even more harm than the one last time.

Now I have learned that in order to cope better with a problem or conflict, it is important to be able to turn it into an opportunity. And so, conflict resolution should no longer be part of our methods or approaches to be used when we are facing conflict in our community. The best approach to use is conflict transformation.

Remember that change is a process, and to change better, we must develop a plan to follow, put in place the methods and strategies that will ensure that we have a positive change.

As Dr John Paul said in his book; “Conflict flows from life. Rather than seeing conflict as a threat, we can understand it as providing opportunities to grow and to increase understanding of ourselves, of others, of our social structures. Conflicts in relationships at all levels are the way life helps us to stop, assess, and take notice. One way to truly know our humanness is to recognize the gift of conflict in our lives. Without it, life would be a monotonously flat topography of sameness and our relationships would be woefully superficial. Conflict also creates life: through conflict we respond, innovate, and change. Conflict can be understood as the motor of change, that which keeps relationships and social structures honest, alive, and dynamically responsive to human needs, aspirations, and growth[1]. "

This shows us that conflict transformation is the best approach to use when dealing with conflict in society.

In Dr's video he said something important that personally motivated me and can make the change effective. As he said, I quote: "Conflict will always have something to do during the personal change, this is the part of the process that requires you as a person, as a human being to look carefully at your own life, your own patterns, your own ways of being and how you will choose to be in settings of conflict but you also have to know that people who are across from you who may be different than you who may not share your viewpoints are also people and there are people who have been impacted by this convent and that we know from many of the things that we've experienced and done how much conflict impacts us as persons, our tendencies to feel the heartbeat increase maybe our ability to talk isn't quite as clear when we feel confronted maybe were have a tendency to pull back and away from people that we find great for us a threat in some form or fashion all of these things have to do with personal change that is going on in a given context. "

It makes us believe that it is through personal change that we will be able to change any situation we may face in our life.

And so, let's wait no longer, now is the time to change to prevent conflicts that can happen to us in life while having a transformational approach to conflict.


[1] John Paul LEDERACH, « The little book of conflict transformation », 2014, page 19


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